Celibacy is a subject not often discussed in today’s culture and rarely is it considered an option for young people considering their place in Life… unless of course they are planning to be a Priest, Nun, or Monk… and even then, much to my disappointment, I have discovered that few who choose these professions actually live celibate lifestyles.
What should be obvious, to anyone with a brain, is that the act of having sex with another person is actually destructive to the relationship. No one will tell you this and in fact most people will tell you just the opposite… but all you have to do is look at the damaged people around you.
Don’t get me wrong, I am sure the act of sex is very enjoyable at the time it is happening, and it would not be fair of me to suggest to you that I have never fantasized about having sex… but the truth is that I have never allowed myself the pleasure of going all the way with another person, and as a result I have nothing to regret or feel ashamed of… because few relationships that become sexual ever last, and most result in long lasting trauma to the participants.
Of course, when two people come together and mutually decide that they would like to have children, sex can be a beautiful experience. I am not talking about procreative sex however and certainly would not discourage it for those who want to have a family, but I would emphasize that having children must be a mutual decision or else the relationship will eventually fall apart.
Celibacy is a viable alternative lifestyle for anyone who wants it and allows for long lasting relationships without bad endings. Unfortunately, I am well aware of the fact that few young people will take me serious and so I offer these two pieces of advice to men only.
- NO WOMAN GETS PREGNANT BY ACCIDENT. If she says it is safe don’t believe her. She wants your baby.
- WEAR A CONDOM WHEN HAVING SEX UNTIL YOU ARE READY AND ABLE TO BE A GOOD FATHER. It is the best way to prevent not only getting a girl or your wife pregnant but also from getting and passing on a disease that could ruin your life. For those who are Gay the same advice. If you are sexually active, always carry a condom.
Many will smile and some may even laugh at the old fashion advice I am giving… but believe me, I have seen firsthand what sex can and has done to the lives of people and can assure those who take my advice seriously, that you will not regret it when you are older.